More often than not this phrase is thought of in the context of a wedding ceremony, however, when you are somewhat socially challenged it can take on a whole new meaning.
You see that person across the room and are intregued and attracted to thier laugh and how they lean back slightly when deeply amused, the way they stand, the interested expression on thier face when listening to someone elses story. You notice someones striking eyes and wish you could talk just to gaze into them.
Perhaps its a cluster of people that just look like they are having a grand ol time together and you desperately wish you had the guts to join them, without feeling like the most retarded individual. I was an outsider and felt I had no right to claim a place as an insider.
When I was young I called myself a people watcher. One who enjoys the quiet, yet possibly profound hobby of observing members of the human race and thier interactions with one another.
In retrospect I realize that I had politely catergorized myself so as not to accept the fact that I was, insecure and shy coupled with a low self esteem and that these caused me to be a spectator in my own life.
My elementry years were a torment and it is always said that when one has an enemy that they should know them. Know thier strengths and weaknesses. So that is what I did. I watched and gathered data and became adept at analysing the wants, needs and abilities of people.
Now you may ask, how did this ever serve me? Well, it put me on the map. The popular people, even through highschool began to ask my advice on how to get a particular guy or girl to notice them or why a certain person had changed thier attitude toward them or even what was up with the star athlete and why were they struggling with thier performance.
The answers would vary and others would confide in me thier most intimate secrets and tales.
Now I was no gossip but I certainly gained the knack of conveying the needs of someone and how to possibly meet those needs, thereby making one stand out in anothers life.
Now I'm 38 and totally absorbed with the craziness of my life but still, I find my analytical tools still handy in day to day life.
Am I still a little socially challenged? Yes, but I'm much better at it hiding it now!!
Love,
Lola
The Life of Lola
Thursday 24 March 2011
Tuesday 15 March 2011
Life Changing Beauty Tips
Yesterday I read something that may very well change my entire approach to skin care, upon nearing my 40's.
I was reading about Bali and how their native women care for thier skin. These women don;t struggle with skin cancer, sunspots and whatever else we seem to be riddled with here in North America.
Preserving the youthfulness of thier skin requires a little thought and very little spending.
I have spent hundreds of dollars over the past decade or so trying to improve elasticity and collagen and refrain from wrinkling. I even wear oversized sunglasses to avoid rays through the drivers side window. Anything to slow the clock from fast forwarding me to looking older than I am.
So here it is........ are you ready........
Brown rice water.That's it, brown rice water.
Before dumping the rice water from your boiled brown rice or brown rice pasta(no oil added)
let it cool in a bowl and before bed and when you awake rub some on your face after cleansing and let it air dry.
It will feel a little like a facial mask at first but WOW the flawless outcome for me was well worth it!
I used it all over and then lightly towel dried my skin and talk about silky feeling.
Read up on the nutrients of brown rice and all that can be part of your skin regiment. For no more than you paid to eat it.
Michaela, my daughter decided she liked to drink it so she takes a glass before I whisk the bowl off to my bathroom.
Funny as it may seem, Kaleb informed me that he too has to take of his skin so he stays young looking...lol
Good luck and post me your results:)
Love,
Lola
I was reading about Bali and how their native women care for thier skin. These women don;t struggle with skin cancer, sunspots and whatever else we seem to be riddled with here in North America.
Preserving the youthfulness of thier skin requires a little thought and very little spending.
I have spent hundreds of dollars over the past decade or so trying to improve elasticity and collagen and refrain from wrinkling. I even wear oversized sunglasses to avoid rays through the drivers side window. Anything to slow the clock from fast forwarding me to looking older than I am.
So here it is........ are you ready........
Brown rice water.That's it, brown rice water.
Before dumping the rice water from your boiled brown rice or brown rice pasta(no oil added)
let it cool in a bowl and before bed and when you awake rub some on your face after cleansing and let it air dry.
It will feel a little like a facial mask at first but WOW the flawless outcome for me was well worth it!
I used it all over and then lightly towel dried my skin and talk about silky feeling.
Read up on the nutrients of brown rice and all that can be part of your skin regiment. For no more than you paid to eat it.
Michaela, my daughter decided she liked to drink it so she takes a glass before I whisk the bowl off to my bathroom.
Funny as it may seem, Kaleb informed me that he too has to take of his skin so he stays young looking...lol
Good luck and post me your results:)
Love,
Lola
Wednesday 9 March 2011
You might even be a ROCKSTAR!!
Well hello world!
Today offered us crazy Canucks a blizzard!!! Wowie, wow, wow!
The reason I state "Crazy" is because it doesn't seem to stop us one bit. Hand us a shovel and a snow brush and we will brave any amount of snow.
Anyhow, that is not my topic of thought today.
I have always had a secret fantasy. No, it's not dirty and certainly not limited to adulthood.
Deep down inside the depths of my being lies a rockstar.
I only let her out in the shower and sometimes in the laundry room (great acoustics).
Tonight though I found a purpose for her. Just a few weeks from now is our ward talent show.
We happen to have alot of talent in our church ward and therefore I will be in good company but
it also means that I can't afford to screw up.
After our amateur judging of American Idol tonight, I scrolled through my ipod to select just that right song.
The one that doesn't put people to sleep but elevates them and you to the staus of a memorable performance.
I found my perfect band. JOURNEY !!!!! I haven't chosen which song as yet but wish me luck
;)
Love Lola
Today offered us crazy Canucks a blizzard!!! Wowie, wow, wow!
The reason I state "Crazy" is because it doesn't seem to stop us one bit. Hand us a shovel and a snow brush and we will brave any amount of snow.
Anyhow, that is not my topic of thought today.
I have always had a secret fantasy. No, it's not dirty and certainly not limited to adulthood.
Deep down inside the depths of my being lies a rockstar.
I only let her out in the shower and sometimes in the laundry room (great acoustics).
Tonight though I found a purpose for her. Just a few weeks from now is our ward talent show.
We happen to have alot of talent in our church ward and therefore I will be in good company but
it also means that I can't afford to screw up.
After our amateur judging of American Idol tonight, I scrolled through my ipod to select just that right song.
The one that doesn't put people to sleep but elevates them and you to the staus of a memorable performance.
I found my perfect band. JOURNEY !!!!! I haven't chosen which song as yet but wish me luck
;)
Love Lola
Tuesday 8 March 2011
Monday 7 March 2011
What is a "Kalebism"
Everyone who has a child believes there is something special about them, and that is true.
However, there are children who live in a special realm of special and anyone who has met my son Kaleb and carried on more than a 1 minute conversation with him, knows that he is indeed special among the special.
Kaleb is 7 years old but only according to his birth certificate.
He has a creative sense of logic that is indeed rare among men.
In the SK his teacher tried to convince Kaleb of the importance in learning to write his name.
His reply was " I can just tell you, can't I?"
In grade 1 we placed him in French Immersion(mistake) The teacher told him he must say "May I please go to the washroom?" en francais.
His reply was " Why? You understand english and I can speak english. So why can't I just ask you in english?"
So, if you get where I'm coming from and as I further add to my blog you'll understand a "Kalebism" when you see one.
Kalebism of the week(last week)
I tried to convince Kaleb that he shouldn't marry his older sisters best friend to whom he proposed to last year.
I told him " Yah know.. shes older than you and way taller than you and she's a vegan and you love meat....."
Kalebs reply was " Mommy, I made a commitment!(emphatically, yet matter of factly) AND we pinkie swore."
When she came to visit he reiderated his commitment and simply asked if she would be willing to cook meat for him if possible?
However, there are children who live in a special realm of special and anyone who has met my son Kaleb and carried on more than a 1 minute conversation with him, knows that he is indeed special among the special.
Kaleb is 7 years old but only according to his birth certificate.
He has a creative sense of logic that is indeed rare among men.
In the SK his teacher tried to convince Kaleb of the importance in learning to write his name.
His reply was " I can just tell you, can't I?"
In grade 1 we placed him in French Immersion(mistake) The teacher told him he must say "May I please go to the washroom?" en francais.
His reply was " Why? You understand english and I can speak english. So why can't I just ask you in english?"
So, if you get where I'm coming from and as I further add to my blog you'll understand a "Kalebism" when you see one.
Kalebism of the week(last week)
I tried to convince Kaleb that he shouldn't marry his older sisters best friend to whom he proposed to last year.
I told him " Yah know.. shes older than you and way taller than you and she's a vegan and you love meat....."
Kalebs reply was " Mommy, I made a commitment!(emphatically, yet matter of factly) AND we pinkie swore."
When she came to visit he reiderated his commitment and simply asked if she would be willing to cook meat for him if possible?
Somethings are better when they're free.
We walk around with these points cards.....Optimum, Sobeys, PCpoints, WalMart, Scene, Air Miles etc.
How many of us cash in on them and track them? Strategically itemizing our shopping lists to accumulate as many points as possible.
It is crazy what we can aquire for free, just by shopping in the right place, at the right time.
So, today I issued myself a challenge: how much can I aquire without putting out any money?
Shoppers Drug Mart - $43.65 - $40 worth of optimum points = paid $3.65
SuperCentre - $62.10 - $50 (points) - $10 coupon (off $50 or more purchase) = paid $2.10
It was so much fun! I felt like I was spending someone elses money that I didn't have to repay :0
I must admit that my over exhuberhance was less than appreciated by my husband, who stood loading the
bagged wares into the cart. His eyes pleading with me to stop rambling in my excitement to anyone within earshot.
I think I may have embarrased him a wee bit. I don't really care though :P because I walked through the parking lot with a ginger spring in my step. I felt deeply satisfied and strangley excited.
I LOVE FREE STUFF!!!!!!!!!
How many of us cash in on them and track them? Strategically itemizing our shopping lists to accumulate as many points as possible.
It is crazy what we can aquire for free, just by shopping in the right place, at the right time.
So, today I issued myself a challenge: how much can I aquire without putting out any money?
Shoppers Drug Mart - $43.65 - $40 worth of optimum points = paid $3.65
SuperCentre - $62.10 - $50 (points) - $10 coupon (off $50 or more purchase) = paid $2.10
It was so much fun! I felt like I was spending someone elses money that I didn't have to repay :0
I must admit that my over exhuberhance was less than appreciated by my husband, who stood loading the
bagged wares into the cart. His eyes pleading with me to stop rambling in my excitement to anyone within earshot.
I think I may have embarrased him a wee bit. I don't really care though :P because I walked through the parking lot with a ginger spring in my step. I felt deeply satisfied and strangley excited.
I LOVE FREE STUFF!!!!!!!!!
Thursday 3 March 2011
Be Gentle. It's My First Time
So here I am. A lot nervous and a little unsure. Similar to how I felt that first time I, well...you know.
I have never blogged before but from what I've seen it is, simply put, an expression of ones thoughts and experiences shared with others via the world wide web.
My name is not Lola, except to my husband who has never revealed to anyone else in our current social circle, my "stripper name". (Nickname not indicating occupation)
I was donned "Lola" one night years ago while surround by my intoxicated friends. I being sober, as usual, thought it would be fun if we all had stripper names. One was Candi another Lace and someone was named Feather.
I, however, became Lola, named after the song sung by the sultry voice of Sarah Vaughn http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-g5YNPzr8NM
So now you know, that a mother of three children with "big personalities" and the wife of a husband who is gentle hearted and kind but as romantic as a turtle can have secret side of her.
I hope you'll follow along on my blogging adventure. Someday I will be a published author and I will owe it all, to those of you who held my hand gently through my first time.
I have never blogged before but from what I've seen it is, simply put, an expression of ones thoughts and experiences shared with others via the world wide web.
My name is not Lola, except to my husband who has never revealed to anyone else in our current social circle, my "stripper name". (Nickname not indicating occupation)
I was donned "Lola" one night years ago while surround by my intoxicated friends. I being sober, as usual, thought it would be fun if we all had stripper names. One was Candi another Lace and someone was named Feather.
I, however, became Lola, named after the song sung by the sultry voice of Sarah Vaughn http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-g5YNPzr8NM
So now you know, that a mother of three children with "big personalities" and the wife of a husband who is gentle hearted and kind but as romantic as a turtle can have secret side of her.
I hope you'll follow along on my blogging adventure. Someday I will be a published author and I will owe it all, to those of you who held my hand gently through my first time.
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